The more we fool
ourselves the more unhappy we are, isn’t it? Happiness is something we search
most in an attempt to make us happy. The place where happiness is searched most
these days is ‘Google’. We try different keywords to find it out; ‘what is
happiness’, ‘how to get happiness’, ‘why happiness’, ‘how to remove boredom’ so
on and so forth. And finally ended up in bundling some notes, taking some
printouts, pin it on our desk, bedroom, study table, computer desktop, forcing
us to believe that we have found the key to happiness but does it give us
happiness? Second source of collecting the fooling material is self-help books
(many of them if not all) where we want to improve us to be happy. Some
self-acclaimed ‘Bestseller Book’ burdened us with a long list of to-do-steps
which fills us with the feeling of guilt when we can’t practice them and we
fall back into the auto-pilot mode where circumstances decides our way of
action.
Furthermore, we are
taught by ‘Smart People’ to behave in
the certain way to be happy; one such attempt to show ourselves more and more
happy to others, irrespective of we are or we are not. We try to be happier by
showcasing our Happy-Personality to others, does it make us happy? Sources of
gratification make us feel that we are happy but in reality we are not.
Happiness is something which is permanent; gratification is temporary. Any
action which gives us life (not only happiness) all the time we do, is real
source of happiness, how?
Some friends of mine have
helped me in understanding that. Varun, a computer programmer, is not one of
the programmers who write codes for a paycheck from his company but programming
is in his DNA. He can write codes through days and nights and that is
happiness. Unlike many other programmers, he looks for the opportunities to
write computer codes. My another friend is Vishal, a driller by profession but
poet by heart, who has found his happiness in writing the poems. Recently, I
came to know that he is going to write for some international publisher.
We have understood that
how happiness has influenced our life but still we need to decode the secret of
happiness. “When we are able to channelize
our creativity in our action, there comes happiness”. Creativity is not
confined to create a beautiful design, write poems, create computer app and so
on. Creativity comes out when we connect
with something and engrossed into it. To be connected is not to be influenced. We
influenced with programming when we see somebody is earning a handsome amount
of money in it. On the same time we influenced with an actor when we see a lot
of people hangs around him/her. ‘I too can do that or I can do even better’ is
connection and ‘I should do that’ is influence. The moment we find out the ‘Something’ we can connect with is the
beginning of happiness.
We cannot connect
with everything or anything but we can connect with something which is in-sync
with our true nature. When we connect, creativity flows into it and happiness
follows.